It's Not A Comeback

It’s been a while since I posted, and whenever I’ve gotten bogged down in the past and struggled to find time to post, I’ve always just given up. But when I first started this blog, I really wanted to make a go of it, and still do. I so enjoyed getting back to writing, but I felt that if I couldn’t be super dedicated and stick to a certain number of posts each week like I could see the “proper” bloggers were doing, then there was no point in doing it.

However, rather than give up, I’ve accepted that having a full time job, running a home and planning a wedding doesn’t always lend its time to spending hours writing and editing on a strict timetable. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t still post when I have the time and something to write about. Maybe I’ll find time to post twice this week and not post again for another month, but that’s okay. Over the last few weeks I’ve realised that rather than be embarrassed of what people may think about my gaps in posting, I should stop worrying about being judged. Everyone understands that life can get a bit hectic and keeping up with hobbies is, unfortunately, often the first thing to be forgotten about.

The last six months or so have flown by, with surviving Christmas as a Sales Support Admin Assistant at House of Fraser, to changing jobs to a position that, unfortunately, has not lived up to what I’d hoped it would be. But my dissatisfaction with my new job has made me realise I need to make the effort to do things which I find fulfilling outside of work.

And with this year being the year to start putting wedding plans into action, I will definitely have things to write about. From my wedding dress appointments to arranging a sit down with the stationary designers I’ve had my eye on, I will have plenty going on.

Who else out there has struggled to get back to their blog after a hectic few months? Did any of you let the fear of being judged put you off posting for even longer?

The Future Mrs Love xx

670 Days to Mrs Love

After all the excitement of getting engaged had calmed down, we realised we had some important decisions to make. I was well prepared, I’d picked up one of nearly every wedding magazine available in WHSmiths and they all agreed on where to start. We had to set our budget, agree on our priorities and decide how much of the budget we were willing to allocate to each part of the day. When it came down to making a list of everything the budget needed to cover, the list just seemed to keep growing! There was the photographer, florist, music, rings, outfits for ourselves and the wedding party, and lots of little things you don’t even consider until they’re taking a chunk out of the budget for the big day.

And of course there was only a slim chance we were going to agree on what our priorities were. I think for anyone, the venue will always come pretty highly on that list. It’s the place your entire day will be set in, so it’s always important it’s somewhere you love. I might be wrong, but I’m assuming for most couples the venue is where a large chunk of the budget tends to go, unless you’re lucky enough to a have friends or family with somewhere beautiful to hold the reception!

So once we’d quite quickly and easily agreed that the venue was important to us both, the rest then had to be prioritised. When we started out with planning, my fiancé really didn’t realise just how much had to be considered and factored into the budget. As I listed things he sat there saying “Oh I wouldn’t have even thought of that” at almost every other item I wrote down.

For me, the photographer was hugely important. I’m the sort of person who will take photos of everything on a day out or holiday, through fear of forgetting any little details. One of my favourite things to do is look back through my photo albums, so a good photographer was probably my top priority after the venue.

My fiancé had slightly different views. He was keen on a chocolate fountain, a DJ with expensive, flashy lighting and set up, and hiring a projector for our own PowerPoint presentation. I’m sure you won’t be surprised to hear he likes his gadgets! On the one hand, the fact that we agreed we would rather have a DJ rather than a band was great. On the other hand, a flashy set up and strobe lighting effects were not something I was fussed about. In the end we agreed that while we both felt it was important that the DJ was good, the way their set up looked was not crucial.  Thankfully for me, he did agree that it was important to have beautiful photos to remember the day by in the years to come, and so the photographer took top priority.

Something he had strong opinions on which really surprised me was the flowers. It wasn’t the type of flower that he knew he wanted at our wedding, but the style of the arrangements. I wasn’t expecting the flowers to be one of the things he already had ideas about so early on but he wanted tall martini vase arrangements for the centrepieces. Of course they need more flowers to fill them than smaller vases, so we agreed to keep a good portion of the budget aside for the flowers.

 In the end we didn’t struggle too much with prioritising, and it probably could have been much more of a headache than we found it. So tell me, which aspects are/were most important to you? How easily did you and your fiancé find it to agree on them?

The Future Mrs Love xx